NO MATTER THE INTENTIONS
not only is outing someone unnecessary, it’s safety risk. you can never know how someone will respond to another’s gender identity or sexuality. often it isn’t well.
also, sometimes people are ‘out’ in some situations or around some people but not others.
in this case, it’s important to ask the person what language (including name and pronouns) they would like you to use, in those situations. be mindful. be careful.
it’s not up to us to come out for people.