since having top surgery my body dysmorphia has become clearer i was always dysphoric about my chest & hips, and dysmorphic about my stomach. top surgery only tackled the first one. the difficulty with dysphoria & dysmorphia is that there are so many overlaps & similarities that it’s super hard to differentiate. making it sometimesContinue reading “Dysphoria or dysmorphia? Or both?”
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straight is not the template
let’s start acting like there are infinite ways to experience sexuality / gender being straight / cisgender is not the ‘normal’ way to live – it’s just one of many alternatives. let’s stop forcing heteronormativity & the gender binary as if it’s the only way. let’s stop expecting kids to be straight / cisgender –Continue reading “straight is not the template”
having trans friends doesn’t automatically make you a trans ally
“i’m not transphobic, i know loads of trans people” knowing us / being friends with us doesn’t automatically mean you are an ally to us allyship takes active work & time being an ally requires listening to trans people, using the correct name & pronouns, practicing gender neutral language, learning how best to support transContinue reading “having trans friends doesn’t automatically make you a trans ally”
“but what if you regret it?”
99% of people do not regret transitioning. for the small percentage who do de-transition, it is not the terrible outcome that conservative media outlets lead us to believe sometimes de-transitioning is a healthy part of a persons development. let’s stop asking “but what if you regret it” not only does it show great lack ofContinue reading ““but what if you regret it?””
appearance doesn’t equal pronouns
let’s normalise the act of asking for and giving pronouns when we meet new people you can never know how someone identifies & what pronouns they use based just on how they look – you need to ask them if you can’t ask – use they/them until you know. gendered language can be super harmfulContinue reading “appearance doesn’t equal pronouns”
BELIEVE TRANS KIDS
science supports that gender identity develops around the ages of 3-5 years, meaning yes, a child can absolutely know they are transgender. of course this doesn’t mean every kid will realise they are transgender this young. It does mean though that the argument that kids are “too young” is scientifically incorrect – @pinkmantaray “but whatContinue reading “BELIEVE TRANS KIDS”
a dead name is called a dead name for a reason
a really simple way to show someone you respect them & their gender identity is by using their correct name. dead naming threatens trans lives. doing so invalidates a persons authentic gender identity. not forgetting how hurtful it can be.never ask “what name did you use before this” (it doesn’t matter)never use a dead name.Continue reading “a dead name is called a dead name for a reason”
DON’T DEAD NAME!
Misgendering & dead-naming are threats to transgender people’s identities. N e v e r use someone’s dead name or pronouns, even when talking about them in the past. The term itself is pretty self explanatory. It’s called a dead name for a reason. The name is dead to this person. I’ve heard in the past,Continue reading “DON’T DEAD NAME!”
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